Having to deal with a co-parent who tries to retaliate against you simply because they don’t like you can be difficult. If you think that this is what might happen, it’s best to prepare yourself so you have a plan for when it occurs.
One of the most important things to remember is that you can’t let your ex’s actions dictate how you behave. Never stoop to their level because that will only cause harm to the child. Further, if you have to go to court to get the matter handled, you don’t want to have your behavior questioned.
Don’t engage with them
It’s sometimes best to avoid direct contact with an ex. Use written methods of communication that can be monitored by the courts if necessary. This ensures that there’s a record of what’s being said so there aren’t any misunderstandings.
Take a time out
Tensions may get high at some point. Make sure that you take a time out so you can calm down if it gets to this point. This gives you a chance to think clearly about the possible solutions to the issue.
Making sure that the co-parenting relationship benefits the children is important. A vengeful parent can undo a lot of the work that’s been done to help the children feel stable. It’s best to have a solid parenting plan in place so there are guidelines and boundaries for things related to the kids. This might need to have some creative elements, so work with someone who can help you find solutions for your unique situation.
