Divorce is difficult under any circumstances. It’s certainly not easy on spouses, but at least they usually have some idea as to why the marriage has not worked. Children, particularly young children, may have no insight into why their parents are separating.
The result of this is that children often blame themselves for the divorce, which can take a huge toll emotionally. As kids spend so much of their time at school, you’ll want to keep an eye out on their progress post-divorce. Difficulties at school could signal more serious issues, including:
Your child is not perfect but they have certainly never been a bad kid. All children have tantrums from time to time and like to show off. However, you recently received a call from the school principal: Your child has been in a fight. This is highly unusual and completely out of character. Acting out can be a cry for help and it could be a sign that your child is finding the divorce difficult to process.
Your child has always been sociable, and they are a key part of a few sports teams and groups at school. Before the divorce, they’d come home every day and tell both their parents about what happened and what was coming up in the future. Now, there’s none of this. They go straight to their room and show no interest when you ask them how their day went. Are they finding school so difficult that they don’t even want to talk about it?
Children, especially teens, do go through difficult phases. But, it’s important to make sure that your divorce has not harmed them. By working as a co-parenting team, you and your former spouse will still be able to help the kids thrive. Make sure you have legal guidance behind you during every stage of the divorce process.