You decide that you’d like to get a divorce. You know that this is what you want, but you haven’t actually discussed it with your spouse yet.
You don’t want to just file for divorce and then hand them the paperwork to sign. You’d like to have this conversation, but when should you do it?
When you have time to talk
First of all, you want to look for a chunk of uninterrupted time where the two of you can have a discussion without any outside factors. Don’t bring this up if you know you have to leave for work in 20 minutes, for example. The last thing you need is to add any more stress or urgency to a conversation that is already going to feel that way.
When you are absolutely sure
The other thing to remember is that you don’t want to bring this up unless you’re sure that you’re going to get a divorce. It’s not something to throw around or talk about during an argument. It’s something that you only want to mention when you’re sure that you want to move forward with it. That doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind, but just that you have to respect the seriousness of this conversation and not do it lightly.
Moving forward with the legal process
Once you finally do have your divorce conversation and the two of you start moving forward toward the end of your marriage, be sure you take the time to carefully consider your legal rights and all the options you have.