When your spouse asks for a divorce, it’s not uncommon to experience confusing and often conflicting emotions. From sadness and rage to confusion and more, just the topic of divorce is challenging.
While it may seem impossible to think about anything but the request (even if you saw it coming), there are some steps you should take to protect yourself, your finances and your future.
Avoid arguments
There are bound to be hard feelings when a spouse requests a divorce. While this is true, you can choose to be the “bigger person.” Try not to engage in senseless arguments or conflict. Not only will this cause stress, but saying the wrong thing or doing something stupid in the heat of the moment can cost you as your divorce moves forward.
Close your joint accounts
Even if you are in the early stages of divorce, it’s important to think ahead. When the divorce is final, you will be single and live without the support of your spouse (not counting alimony if it is awarded). You should go ahead and close any joint accounts you have. Separate your financial situation as much as possible now, before your spouse has a chance to take money that is yours or move assets so you can’t access them.
Discuss the situation with your children
Your children will be affected as much by your divorce as you are, if not more. Because of this, it’s best not to hide what is going on from them. Let them know the situation and tell them as much as you can based on their age. Also, let them know that the divorce doesn’t mean that both parents don’t love them, nor is it their fault.
Taking the right first steps in a divorce to protect yourself
Divorce is a challenging and emotional time. While this is true, you must focus on moving forward. The tips above will help you start taking steps in the right direction to set yourself up for your new single life.
