Raising children with someone you aren’t in a romantic relationship with any longer can be a challenging journey. When both parents can get along, it can provide the children with more stability and a less stressful childhood.
For some parents, one of the most challenging parts of raising the children as co-parents is communication. These tips may help you to communicate more effectively and calmly with your ex.
Focus solely on the children
As co-parents, you should be solely focused on the children when you interact with each other. The reasons your romantic relationship ended doesn’t have a role in these discussions unless there were issues with abuse or neglect. Every decision you make should be centered around what’s best for the children, which means that you and your ex may need to compromise on some matters.
Choose a suitable communication form
Choose a form of communication that works for your situation. Some co-parents do best with a combination of verbal communication and text messages, but that’s not always possible. You and your ex should set guidelines for how communication will be handled. Consider the forms, as well as any time restrictions, that are important for the situation.
Set dispute resolution terms
Dispute resolution terms are important because they can keep the situation calm when you have to discuss contentious matters. It’s a good idea to leave room to walk away if tensions get too high. You can always come back to discuss the matter again after both parties calm down.
One way that you may be able to reduce the chance of disputes is to have the parenting plan set. This document provides a written set of instructions and guidelines for you and your ex while you raise the children. Working with someone who can assist with getting these terms set may be beneficial.
